Why mediation?
Mediation is used when conflicts escalate so much that there is no longer any room for dialogue between the parties. In mediation, the parties resolve the conflict together with the other party under the guidance of an independent mediator – the mediator. An important condition for mediation is that you are willing to talk to the other party about the conflict in confidentiality
Basic principles for mediation
- Voluntary – You are always free to terminate the mediation process
- Neutrality and impartiality of the mediator
- Confidentiality – Everything that is discussed remains confidential
- Professional and structured approach – The mediator ensures that all relevant topics are discussed and translated into a settlement agreement, covenant or other document
- Attention to communication between parties
- Focus on the underlying interests rather than on the positions taken
- Own course – You decide (within the limits of the law) how you interpret the agreements and thus determine your own course.
Advantages of mediation
Mediation is cheaper than hiring a lawyer for a lawsuit.
It’s much more personal and it’s a quick way to settle the dispute
- Mediation strives for a sustainable solution to the conflict
- All mediation processes are carefully and regularly evaluated
- There is a national network of mediators in the larger cities, including Eindhoven
A mediation process usually looks like this:
- Pre-mediation – The moment you contact me, I will discuss my working method and what the possibilities are
- The intake interview – I contact the mediation parties and send them the mediation agreement, the rules and the rules of conduct. During the first meeting, I will start by going through and signing the mediation agreement , after which the mediation substantively.
- Looking at the history of the conflict together – Most mediation meetings take place with all parties at the same time. Sometimes a separate conversation takes place if I think it is necessary. When there is a conflict, there are usually images of the other person or of the situation and there are misunderstandings. These misunderstandings are brought to the table during the mediation talks. A conversation with me as a mediator is different from regular conversations. Emotions can sometimes run high, but I still make sure that the conversation does not degenerate into arguments. I make sure that you both really say what you are concerned about and that you both understand what the other means.
- Looking at the possible solutions together – Then comes the time to look for a solution. My job is to ensure that you both take the time to think carefully in order to arrive at a well-considered solution. I will not give any advice myself. However, I
can provide neutral information during the mediation. If necessary, you can consult an advisor, such as an accountant, lawyer or tax specialist. - The mediation is concluded with a signed agreement in which the agreements are laid down how the parties will proceed in the future.